An Arousing Anecdote

AN AROUSING ANECDOTE

LS LINGO

It was either the depth of his long forceful stroke or the way she moaned while more of her juices stained my already smothered lips that caused me to climax harder than—harder than I ever did before in my life. Looking up at her I licked my lips seductively and she squeezed my neck with her legs. Then she hopped off the bed and bent over to give me a deep sensual kiss. He forcefully thrusted reminding me that I was not yet done. He grabbed my handcuffs and used them to anchor my waist as he shoved five more into me, let out a deep grunt with each one. MY legs quivered as he left me, receding from his own climax. Still cuffed and bound I felt my own fluids dripping down my leg. He carefully untied me and motioned towards the bathroom where his girlfriend was cleaning up. Instead of getting up I laid down in the bed smelling the scent of making intense love, the scent of these two people who were just strangers to me hours ago…..

Four hours before this I had been invited to a BDSM Swingers Party in Astoria. I was 23, single and according to the couple that invited me I was a unicorn.

As I got dressed the female half of the couple rang my doorbell. She hurried in, criticizing my outfit for being too vanilla. I was reminded that this party will be on premise.

I heard about swinger parties before but never got around to going to one. My friends had been members of an online lifestyle community My Wild Lifestyle. They ran off a list of their close friends, some people who were friends of mines as well, all of them who were on the site and were also swingers. It amazed me and still does... all these people that I knew were secretly swingers, secretly fucking each other and then going out to brunch as though nothing was the matter.  I always thought it would be too intense for me. My friend suggested I come with a single male, a bull who wanted to come out to the party. I should avoid going to the second floor of the club. I was not sure what I wanted to do but I knew I was NOT going home with s single male. I wanted to live up the night and that meant it would not end the way any night in a regular club would. I ripped off my dress and left on only the purple and black corset, my purple thong, and the fishnet stockings that were supposed to barely peep out over my tall boots. I felt like a sexy super hero.

It was not until we walked into the club that I got to see what she was wearing. Her blue eyeshadow matched the blue shiny blue pasties and the blue skirt she wore. I never saw my friend naked like this, and never realized how succulent her breasts were. A blue horsetail peeped out of the tiny leather skirt. I later learned that she was plugged to advertise her enthusiasm for anal.

Her husband showed up later in some slacks and a bowtie. He was shirtless. I almost felt overdressed when I scanned the club. Tits, thighs, stomachs and chests were all exposed as though a buffet of erogenous body parts was laid out before me.  Clamps, leashes and people bonded with ropes were also on display. I grabbed my drink, a prepared Long Island Iced Tea that I made with a shot of Hennessy. Knowing that the club was BYOB I uninhibited myself and got a bit faded before hitting the dance floor. I had not finished my drink but already three woman had complimented me, two men introduced themselves and their wives to me and one couple asked me to save them a dance.

I felt sexy as hell and I realized that I was surrounded by many types of beautiful ladies. The pheromones alone almost drowned me.

Finally hitting the dance floor I saw my friend on a small stage with a pole. She was so flirty and sexy, flipping her hair and rubbing her breasts as another girl grinned behind her. I realized the girl was Lucia, a busty Hispanic woman who had introduced me to her husband ‘Mister K’. She explained to me that they had a Daddy Dom relationship and he was to be addressed as Mister. She motioned for me to join and I felt someone slightly touch my neck as I moved through the crowd and hopped on the stage.

I danced slowly, hoping no one could see the moisture in my panties.

I bounced between the couple I came with, the bar where my drink sat and this new couple; Lucia and Mister K. At one point I found Mister K spanking a woman who was not his wife with a paddle. I watched his crotch bulge and his eyes widen with excitement as her ass got redder and her screams got louder. I thought he was making a scene but the females 69’ing in the corner had most people’s attention. I grabbed the paddle and smacked the girls right butt cheek. She turned around, sensing the difference in intensity and when we made eye contact I blew her kiss. Having control over her body turned me on beyond words and I began to rub my own ass on Mister K as I smacked hers. He whispered something about going upstairs to a playroom with his wife. I leaned in to tell him okay and he took advantage, grabbing my face and kissing it gently. I almost came from that kiss alone.

BREAK DOWN OF LS LINGO

BDSM – including bondage, domination and submission, and roleplay BDSM includes a variety of erotic fetishes and many swingers experiment with a variety of these.

Unicorn- a single woman in the lifestyle.  A rare and precious site.

 Vanilla – those who are not about the lifestyle life.

On premise- a party area that encourages and facilitates sex on their premises. IMO the best type of parties!

Bull- a single male in the lifestyle. Though it may seem uncommon there are couples looking for single males but the term comes from the idea that these men are invasive and obvious.

Plugged (anal plug) – a good way to advertise that you are ready and willing for anal play is by wearing a decorative anal plug. Though anal is not every swingers style, I personally keep a nice supply of plugs for some fun.

Clamps- Nipple clamps for the naughty girls who like a little bit of pain.

Leashes- Another personal favorite leashes are used by submissive women. The leash allows them to be controlled by anyone who they offer it to. My leashes are always in the hands of a nasty rough lover during the play parties. I would not have it any other way.

Ropes – particularly for the B in BDSM rope, especially Japanese bondage rope,  can be used to tie a young woman up and, with her permission, fuck the permission out of me…I mean her… *takes hand out of panties* .. Where was I?

Dom- For the D in BDSM Doms are the names for the dominating half of a couple that usually is given permission to control the will of the submissive half. My Dom particular enjoys spanking me, tying me up, teasing me until I beg, fucking me until my knees bend, denying me my right to cum and then making me cum uncontrollably by barely touching me. Just talking about it makes me wet.

Paddle- One of the tools used to give a nice, lasting spanking to a naughty swinger.

Playroom – Most on-premise locations include private rooms with freshly cleaned sheets, condoms and tools to help swingers.

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Know These 5 Things For Your First Swing: Tips For First Time Swingers

The first time you discuss swinging with your partner can be a bit….nerve wrenching.  So if you have gotten past that stage and are now approaching your first date with another couple or  your first time at swinger party there are a couple of things you should be sure to know. Let’s face it, swinging is about having fun and making love. There are different rules for everyone but these are the basic how-tos for newbie swingers.     

 BE THE BEST YOU 

Simply put swinging is VERY much like monogamous dating. You should be at your best presentation because, just like with dating, who you impress affects who you will have success with. Don’t wear your high school gym shorts to a black tie event because you want people to know you keep it simple. Show up and show odd. If you have been having a bad day then it might be great to go out for a party to get your mind off of things. If you are having a miserable day, your head is aching beyond repair and you feel off about a soon coming swinger date then just do the mature thing and cancel the date.  Misery might love company but she does not need it!  

This also means be you sexually. Know offhand what you are and are not into and what you are willing to try. For couples you should have discussed and set boundaries regarding all the things that occur in your relationship and can occur in a swinglationship, including: kissing, different room play and phone number sharing. Honesty is key and cannot be over said or over done. In this case being honest with yourself can save you a lot of trouble and grant you a lot of fun. Joining a swinger website like allows you to personalize your profile so that you can list your preferences and filter your search for other swingers. Talk about the fast track, right? 

FIND YOUR VIBE 

More than just helping you find other swingers and singles who match with you, swinging sites can help you find the swing club for your style. If you know that BDSM is something you want to see to get you turned on then definitely attend parties that advertise BDSM themes and have demonstrations and classes. If you think that dancing, drinking and maybe a little spontaneous room play is more your speed then you should attend parties like this upcoming one, a special little Valentine’s Day Treat hosted by us  

It is also very smart for you to have an idea of what kind of activity you are ready to participate in and are willing to view. This is especially true if your first party is a private party with a couple or a swinger veteran. You may have a distaste for anal (no pun intended) but if you don’t express that in advance you might walk in on a colonoscopy fantasy with a nurse outfit bleached and ready for you! Know what type of play you want and you will probably meet people more like your style and more attractive/attracted to you.  

DON’T KILL ANYONE ELSE’S VIBE 

Attraction is not the end result and as we discussed earlier this month, you can definitely find someone attractive and still have a hard time getting it on. If you are on the market for a swinger (what a delicious market that would be!) you may want to follow these golden conversation rules. No politics, race or religion. Just don’t do it. In the comfort of your own home and with a very intimate relationship this rule can be ignored. However, for the first time swingers you may want to give a list of info; a resume of sorts to the people that you are partying with. Trust me, just save the communication for the fun stuff. 

 LET IT RIDE  

While communication is a stepping stone there is an element of romance that is bred and fed off the unsaid. That means there are times when being honest is more about being silent than saying anything. If you or your spouse meets someone and immediately you ask to put their fingers down your crack so they can get a taste of you, you MIGHT get a warm respond. Or you might get a really cold one and come off as disrespectful. For a lot of people swinging is more about intimacy than sex and  being too frank is not advised. Speak with your eyes. Speak with your dance moves. Speak with your smile. All of these tools can be used to indicate attractiveness as well as or even better than words. Of course you should exchange some words once the mime-foreplay is over but remember to be mature and respectful even when discussing plans in the bedroom.  

GET SUPPLIES  

So you and your spouse are about to do the deed. You danced the night away at a fun party, met some sexy people and exchanged numbers, went through your rules and are heading home with a sexy single lady who you both want to bend into a figure eight. You head to the hotels but can’t quite complete your date. You forgot your necessary items at home. Now most people will be thinking condoms but when it comes to the act of sex there are A BUNCH of things that a person may need to bring along.  

The most basic list of things you should have to ‘play’: 

• The obvious for both men and woman (condoms) 
• A towel to dry off after shower 
• Shower rag and body wash/soap 
• Lotion/ deodorant/makeup for reapplication 
• Toothbrush/ toothpaste/ mouthwash 
• Toys  (which is really one or many of any of these things - vibrators, cock-rings, paddles, strap-ons, dildos, clamps, costume changes pole chalk, chokers, leashes, whips, restraints….this list gets exhaustive) 
• Music/ Movies (Now whether or not you should play porn at a swinging event is another topic entirely, but in short you really should be more occupied with the 3-D sexual vibes at any play party.) 

I hope this can help you shake your first-timer jitters. Look forward to warm welcomes and sexy fun February  14th. If one night in erotic heaven is not enough for you join us at the hottest nude resort this memorial day, MWL takes over Jamaica. Look forward to polls about What to bring to a Play Party, What Kind of Swinger Club Turns You On and What Is Your Swinging Style…and of course more blog posts from our sexy MWL members.  

Have a fun, sexy and safe time! 

Nelle xxx 

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How We Started Swinging

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By: SexdrunkBelle

A common ‘get to know you question’ when you first meet a potential playmate is, “How did you guys get into the lifestyle?” So I figured I would share that story with you guys here so you can get a sense of who we are and how we got into this.
Let me start by saying that my first knowledge of swingers didn’t come until a couple of years before I started, and my introduction to it was of a negative connotation. I heard from a good friend of mine that a couple that we knew were swingers. “Be careful with them…they’re swingers,” he warned. “Um, what does that mean?” I asked meekly. “They have sex with, like, mad other people.” “Oh…” Not the greatest explanation, but that’s what I had to go on.

Fast forward a couple of years. Blake and I had discussed my interest in women and were actively seeking a threesome without any luck. Randomly, this couple invites Blake and I to a birthday party. This sets off no alarms because Blake has known these people since elementary school.

Once we get to the party, the male from the couple discreetly tells Blake that there are swingers among the group we’re partying with. *cue ominous string instrumental* Thus begins our first real introduction to swinging. (For those curious, we did not find a third that night, although I had a little, um, 30 minute…session…with a female partygoer in the bathroom. That’s a story for another time J)

We start off with soft swap with that couple because, as I said, we were in it for the girls and had no real interest in swapping partners. It was a weird experience at first. I never thought I’d find myself openly attracted to and having sex with another woman. It’s something I’d always fantasized about, but never thought I’d be able to be honest about. Only through communication with my partner was I able to let that part of myself free. And I DEFINITELY didn’t think I’d be having sex in front of other people. Having sex with Blake while they watched and being able to watch them unlocked a voyeuristic side I never knew I had. Over time, I grew quite comfortable with our arrangement as it was. We’d joined a couple of swinger sites and we were getting acclimated to life as soft swap swingers. Then came K, Jody and the infamous Halloween party.

It was our first on-premise event. We were unsure of what we’d see, but excited for the new experience. We go with that same couple that introduced us to the life. We all enjoy ourselves, get drunk, and decide to invite people over after the party. Jody and K decided to join us.

That night, we decided to give full swap a go. We were drunk, the vibe was right and they were HOT! Lol. So, we have our first full swap experience (unbeknownst to Jody and K) and it goes smoothly. Blake and I discussed the experience when we got home afterward and we were both extremely comfortable with everything that happened. And the rest is history. We have been proud card-carrying members of the full swap swinging community ever since,

For us, our opinions and boundaries evolved as we had more experiences and met more people. Each new frontier was accompanied by serious discussion between the two of us as to where our comfort level lies. I’m sure everyone says this, but allow me to reiterate: communication is PARAMOUNT when you’re a swinger. No matter how big or how small the feeling, you have to share it with your partner so you don’t end up in an uncomfortable or potentially relationship-ending situation because you didn’t speak up.

So that’s how I got into this. How was your experience different or similar? When did you know that swinging was what you wanted to do? Were you immediately down to go all the way or did you ease into it? I love hearing stories, so share!

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The Polite Way To Say No To Swingers

One of the BIGGEST and MOST COMMON issues with swinging is finding yourself attracted to one of the members of a couple but ..sadly.. NOT attracted to another. Or there is a single member who has the hots for you but you can not even imagine…

Your partner or friends may encourage you to ‘take an L’ or ‘take one for the team’ -the team of sex… the titty team… who knows? I am going to tell you to do the hardest thing it is to do: tell them the truth.

 Now know that I am not saying to wait till play time when that person approaches you with their dick-in-hand and say “Nope, your face has too much ugly for my liking”. Nor am I telling you to text the person right now with a long apology and explanation of all the things about them that you do not find attractive. I am saying to BE HONEST WITH PEOPLE AS SOON AS YOU MEET THEM. BE CLEAR ABOUT WHAT YOU FIND ATTRACTIVE aesthetically and what you look for in the personality of those you swing with.

If you're reading this and thinking “I have never swung with anyone I did not find completely hot” then: Welcome to the lifestyle! I am glad your first and only experience was enjoyable!! But if you can sympathize with me then here is a little list of the possible things you might find unattractive in another person and some tips on

THE POLITE WAY TO SAY "NO"

First Fixable Issue: THE PERSON OF INTEREST IS NOT A GOOD FIT, literally. This person is too skinny or too big or too muscular or bony or too whatever it is , something about their body your body disagrees with. You might like the candy but not the package.

Solution: BODY'S CHANGE ESPECIALLY WOMEN'S BODIES. Unless it is a health issue you should NEVER make a suggestion to any one, man or woman, about their body type or weight. Telling someone to gain or lose weight is insulting. However telling someone your preferences from the jump is the best way to avoid having a BBW chasing after you when you are known to consider Tyra Banks a plus size girl.

Extreme Solution: You have found that this person is still very UNattractive to you and yet they are still attracted to you. You want to make your friendship work but you can NOT get over this superficial issue. Don’t think you’re shallow, sex is very much linked to the visual. Ask them about their health goals and see if they also believe there is an issue. IF THEY STATE THAT THEY WOULD LIKE TO GAIN OR LOSE WEIGHT THAN ENCOURAGE THEM, and even tell them that you think it is a great choice for you and their relationship as well. If it is a real goal of theirs they won’t get offended by hearing that their ideal body will be appreciated by their lovers.

Second Fixable Issue: You like this person regularly but they have their vice and it can really affect them. We all know that alcohol, legal and illegal drugs are present in all communities and swinging is not exempt.YOU WANT TO HAVE A GOOD TIME BUT NOT WHILE THEY ARE "AFFECTED ".

Solution: This is a really easy one because a lot of times people use substances in order to lessen their inhibitions and be more attractive in the eyes of their lovers. SIMPLY TELLING THEM HOW SEXY THEY LOOK SOBER will be a big boost for them to drop that drink and put that pill away. No one wants to look foolish.

Extreme Solution: You have explained to the person how much more fun you have when they are sober (say no more than this, you do not want to sound judgmental) but that person is still engaging in the behavior in your presence. THAT MEANS THEY HONESTLY HAVE LITTLE REGARD FOR YOUR OPINION AND IT IS BEST TO END INTIMACY WITH THAT PERSON. That could also mean that they have an abuse problem. It is NOT your place, unless you are a counselor, to diagnose anyone but if you know the person’s S.O. or if you are a close friend consider that person’s health and encourage them to seek help.

Third Fixable Issue: You enjoy the person’s company but can’t get your anatomy to function. You know it is not stress or biology, YOU SIMPLY ARE NOT SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO THIS PERSON but you love the conversation.

Solution: If it’s an issue with performance (a minute man with a Chihuahua thrust or a girl who thinks the clit is the only spot to lick on a vagina) then you can just SHOW THEM HOW YOU LIKE IT DONE. Be ADAMANT about that being your preferred sex-style and if they want to please you, they will adhere. IF IT IS NOT THE STYLE OF SEX BUT SIMPLY SEX IN GENERAL THAN YOU MAKE THEM YOUR 'CUDDLE BUDY'. You can say it jokingly or you can seriously ask them to take out some time with you just to cuddle. Any lifestyler may be so used to raunchy offers that the chance to cuddle may surprise them at first. If they do take up your proposition then stick to it, dedicate some time to cuddling and chatting with that person genuinely. If they try to make a move then gently remind them that this is the cuddle time they promised you and that is all you intend to do. Cuddle. Nothing more.

Extreme Solution: So the cat got your tongue and you could not resist the dry humping that almost always follows an extreme cuddle session. Now you are here with your pants off and they are ready to start initiating. TELL THEM YOU ARE NOT IN THE MOOD AND THAT YOU PREFER ANOTHER PERSON OR YOUR S.O. at this moment and make your move OUT OF the room. Leave them to mull over their actions. This is much like telling the person “I don’t want you” but more gently by saying “I want someone else. But you’re cool too.” It may seem mean but NOTHING IS MEANER THAN GIVING SOMEONE DRY-RESISTANT-PUSSY OR LIMP-DICK OUT OF SYMPATHY.

Fourth Fixable Issue: Now THIS PERSON IS VERY ATTRACTIVE TO YOU BUT ONLY WHEN THEIR MOUTH IS CLOSED OR FULL. Despite having all the physical features on your perfect lover check-list the sounds from this person’s mouth tend to cause you to cringe. Don’t bring your earplugs to the play party in hopes of a hot and heavy mute sex session.

Solution: If you and this person just disagree on political views then avoid the topics. However if this person is unable to hold any conversation with you then it is your duty to address your own sexuality. Basically DO YOU WANT TO SEX THEIR INTELLIGENCE OR THEIR BODY. Decide which works best for you and whether that agrees with their needs for intimacy. The easiest way to make it clear is by whispering the exact thing you want into their ear ."I want your body not your mind". Trust me, if one of my lovers told me to shut up and take my clothes off I’d have my mouth closed and my legs open. If the person takes offense you probably don’t want to swing with that particular person anyway because your idea of sex doesn't match their own.

Extreme Solution: So the cocktails you slow sipped and your sultry suggestion has only prompted them to dive further into discussion about the color of earth from space or whatever. Your body is slowly cooling off and your brain is melting and you can’t imagine yourself having sex with this person if EVeN ONE MORE word starts spilling out of their mouth. However, they have been coming onto you still. I say just call it quits. IF YOUR DISLIKE FOR THEIR CONVERSATION IS MORE THAN TEMPORARY THAN YOU DISLIKE THEM, AS A PERSON. Hot body or not, respect your own and find someone you can truly party with.

I think I have addressed most of the problems we find ourselves dealing with when we say” I like him/her but….”

But if there are any more feel free to tell me and I will try to find a way to help us all have a SAFE and SEXY time.

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